What do you do with an elderly father who can no longer take care of himself, yet refuses to admit it?

Oh my GOD! Do I know the position you are in? My Dad is 92 and my Mom is almost 90. Thank GOD they are both in relatively good health but they both need constant supervision which is now being provided by my older sister and brother in law that are now retired. They recently purchased a large home in partnership with my parents so they could be there with them 24/7 and also they have home health care and personal care istants that come in every day or so to carry a good deal of the load. No they are by no means financially well off but Medicare picks up the majority of the bills. As a family we had to do what was necessary for the welfare of the two of them which meant convincing them to sell their home of 35+ years and move to another state where they could be closer to family members that could help. My dad especially said for a year or more that there was NO WAY he would agree to selling his home and move to another state and sharing a home with anyone else, family or not, after all this was his 'home', the place where he was most comfortable and the place where he felt secure and where he wanted to die when his time came. He flaty refused to even discuss It PERIOD! We also had good legal counsel and clergy members that we used as 'outside' intermediaries to offer him their best advice. He still said NO WAY! It came down to us making the decision for him and because of his age, declining health and mental faculties we were able to sell the family home (Sigh) and force my folks to make the ultimate move. Was it the hardest decision any of us have ever made or hopefully will ever have to make? Without a doubt..... YES! We all watched with tearful eyes as both of them had tears in their eyes as they were put in the car and drove away from their 'home sweet home' never to return. We looked at it like this, what are the alternatives and which is the better choice? There comes a point in the lives of our elderly parents or grandparents when we must realize that we must take control and do what is best for them. When we are of sound mind and body we need to look out for those that are not. I am also in the business of providing home health monitoring for elderly persons living alone or for homebound persons as well as those people of any age that are even partially incapable of caring for themselves. I have found that in 99% of the cases that I have known it's the elderly that are not willing to admit that they need help in their daily lives. I have come to find what I think is the answer as to why they feel this way. It is everyones worst nightmare to think they will be admitted to a nursing home for the remainder of their lives if they show signs of not being capable of caring for themselves. Therefore they put up this front of being totally capable of caring for themselves as a defense mechanism in hopes of maintaining their independence. As family members we have to read between the lines and recognize the signs that they are NOT any longer capable of being alone. My sister recently asked my Dad if he would agree to having a physical therapist come to the house and work with him in hopes of helping him regain some use of his hands and arms since he is now unable to hold anything in his hands and he has to be hand fed every morsel of food that he consumes. He said absolutely not! His reason was that he realizes now that this is what must be expected at his age therefore it would be a waste of time, effort any money. I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do but just remember that there are only a couple of choices and you are much more capable of making those choices than your elderly father. Do what is best for him and don't second guess your decision regardless of how hard it is to do so. My prayers are with you as you go forward with this most difficult decision.